"I feel..."

I hate conflict. Oooh do I hate conflict. Fighting with someone almost always involves some sort of misunderstanding, selfishness, and blame. Throw in some bad communicating and you've got yourself a pretty good conflict.

Not that I'm a pro or anything, but so far I've found that the best way to deal with issues is to focus on the main thing: ie you care about the other person and the relationship and you want to see things work out. With this in mind it's easier not to nitpick. I've done the nitpicking thing and it *so* does not work out well. Shudder. What does seem to work out okay is owning up to the stupid stuff I do and acknowledging the cool stuff the other person did.

The piss off, is that the other person might not deal with conflict the same way. They might still think you're a douche bag (vulgar term common in Calgary) and be more interested in being right and being the victim (whether they are or not). This is where I'm not sure what to do? Do you keep pressing to say it takes two to tango? Do you give in and accept your given role as the villain? Or do you tell the person he or she is a friggin' headcase and you don't need that shit? I've tried playing the "everything's fine game" in the past and that def doesn't work. So I guess I don't really know what to do from here.

Maybe booze and drugs are the answer ;)